I understand the whole “triggering” thing and how people would want to cave in to anorexia/bulimia/etc. just by seeing a photo or a post…but you shouldn’t put that responsibility on the photo you saw or on that person. That’s like seeing an overweight person and saying it triggered you to become…
Ugh, WTF?! Normally Lexi doesn’t bother me as much as some of the other efags, but I really don’t like her wording and her tone here.
First of all, I find her repeated use of the phrase “caving in” in reference to ED behaviors, to be kind of offensive and to reflect a lack of understanding of what it is to have an ED. I think it puts down people who suffer from these things, implying that they’re weak or flawed because they starve themselves or force vomiting. They’re not; they’re human, and suffer from a mental illness. These behaviors are downright compulsive. It isn’t something you “cave in” to out of weakness.
Also, I feel like she doesn’t understand the phenomenon of “triggering”. She opines that seeing a picture of a thin person and being “triggered” toward ED thoughts and behaviors is equivalent to “seeing an overweight person and saying it triggered you to become obese”. NO. That’s a bad analogy; there isn’t perceived social pressure in our society to be overweight, the way there’s perceived social pressure to be thin. This comparison just doesn’t work. I feel like Lexi fundamentally does not understand what it feels like to be “triggered” like that.
I can kind of understand being frustrated at being accused of promoting an unhealthy body image, when really you just naturally have a small body. Lexi strikes me as what you’d call “naturally thin”. That said, with Lexi I think it’s kind of a mixed bag. She doesn’t seem to be trying to be “thinspo”, nor does she strike me as having an ED— though I’ve seen her post all these begging-for-compliments pictures of her flat stomach, thigh gap, etc., which tbh doesn’t help her case at all.
I get this unpleasant impression that, in a way, she’s basically taking other people’s serious psychological illness and making it all about her. ” Personally, I like bones and being skinny and it makes me feel beautiful. I think it’s beautiful. Don’t tell me I’m wrong. This is me.” (Underlining mine, for emphasis). She acts like she’s some sort of martyr, when honestly I think she’s kind of halfway “asking for” comments on how thin she is, in a fishing-for-compliments kind of way. Overall, she seems to look at other people’s EDs in a very self-centered way, like she has this inability or refusal to understand where people who have EDs are coming from, because she has never felt that way.